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There are millions of relationships today that fall apart. In most cases theres an expectation from someone and that the other person in not able to fulfill. The problem is not capacity. The problem is that they never had an example of someone who would impart into them the life the principals, core values or morals to do so.
Jesus gave them this answer:
“Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.” John 5:19
This principal applies to all relationships.
If someone has influence on you and their methods are not righteous, you will do the same to others. God designed us to have relationships in our life. That is an inevitable aspect of life. We must learn to measure our relationships by Gods version of righteousness and not our own.
“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” NIV 1 Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” ESV1 Corinthians 15:33
This is imperative. Relationships matter in life.
“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”(Mark 12:31)
The way that you treat others says much about the conversations you have with yourself.
Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
Whatever your mouth is dictating means your heart made a conscious decision to either forgive or remain angry.
It is my prayer that you reflect today and take the time to forgive others. Unforgiveness keeps you stuck in the past. It keeps us depending on someone else’s identity.
Un-forgiveness does not allow you to be free.
- Pray about the areas of your heart that you need healing in.
- Take some time in prayer and write them down.
- Allow the Lord to work on your heart.
- Release each person or situation.
- The Lord will start to heal your heart.
Forgive them like it never happened
I have seen many people forgive others yet still hold on to bad memories, and apply those attitudes towards others.
We should forgive others and forget.
Jesus keeps no record of our wrong.
While many do this to others they do not want this to happen to them.
Self-accusation leads rejected persons to have great difficulty forgiving themselves and letting themselves off the hook. They present themselves as victims because of rejection, and blame themselves for the hurt they’ve endured. They believe that something is wrong with them, that they are not good enough, so perhaps all the bad that happened to them was their fault.
However forgiving like it never happened means that you must forget.“
Jesus does not bring up your past sins to you.
When He forgives he does not keep record of wrong.
This is one of the most powerful decisions we can ever make to in our journey of forgiveness.
Forgiving like it never happen will set you apart.
It will cause you to be like the Lord. It will flourish into your new relationships.
Forgiveness GIVES YOU FREEDOM!!
It takes faith to forgive. Always remember that. No matter how many times you face this problem. It will always take faith.
There are relationships and people that are currently flourishing in my life that have only been here for two-three years but it has felt as if we have known each other for years. I first had to make the decision to remove toxic unforgiveness out of my life.
- Remember the way that you treat others says a lot about how you love yourself.
- If toxic is around you it may be because toxic is in you.
- Commit yourself to a love journey that will have an impact on others.
- When we cast toxic out of us, we cast toxic from around us.
One final thing, read this passage from 1 Corinthians out loud and replace the word “Love” with your name.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
Remember, forgiveness sets you free to walk in the fullness and blessing of the Lord. Healthy relationships come from healed hearts. Forgiveness is freedom. Let’s commit together to reflect on this every day.
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